In this article we will talk about a very common way in which people who do not shine with success, but "cope" with the problems. I give it to find out about this way, and that it leads to failure. The method is called "use of excuses" or otherwise - transfer of responsibility. You will notice that a person who is going nowhere and has no plans to get anywhere in life has hundreds of "why" reasons. Ordinary people always have many answers to the question, why not them, why they can't, why they don't. Studying the stories of successful people, you will notice that all of them could also use these excuses, but they did not.
Negative effects of excuses on a person:
- one loses the opportunity to change
- a person loses control of his life
- lowers one's self-esteem and worsens one's self-image
- feels malice
- he feels his own helplessness
Loss of opportunity to change
When you start blaming circumstances and everyone for mistakes and failures, except yourself, you make the situation worse. You fall into a trap: you lose the opportunity to change for the better. The idea is firmly rooted in the mind that you are always absolutely right in everything, and the world is so bad, people are like that. What is the point of changing if you are all right. But in fact everything is quite the opposite - everything is fine with the world and with people, and your troubles are 100% created by you. Realize this fact that you are 100% responsible for your life. Not the parents, not the president, not the officials and no one else. This is difficult to understand, but it does not matter to you what the situation is in the country, whether you are in a developed country or vice versa - all the success is only and exclusively in your head. When you accept this fact,the path to success will open immediately, and you will be able to set foot at the beginning of this path.
On the way to success you have to change significantly. A person who has achieved success is not the same as he was 5 years ago. He has become different thanks to taking full responsibility and eliminating mistakes as much as possible. When you blame everyone but yourself and look for different excuses instead of admitting that this is exactly your fault, you are closed to change, which means that the road to success is closed to you.
Loss of control over one's own life
People who think they control their own lives are happier than those who think their lives are controlled by someone else. Lack of control causes irritation and frustration in a person. People who tend to explain the consequences of actions influenced by external factors or other people are called externals. People who are willing to take responsibility for all the consequences of their actions on themselves are called interns.
What do you think you are? If you think you are in control of your life, but other people have an influence on it, you are also referring to the external. They believe that they will be able to carry out their plans only if others are on their side. They are constantly experiencing inner tension because they believe that other people can influence the outcome of their work.
When you think someone is in control of your life, you lose control of your own life and become a puppet in the hands of circumstances and other people. You run on the river of circumstances, instead of choosing your own life. Life is like a catalog, choose what you want to have, work on achieving and get what you want. The law of attraction clearly describes how a person attracts in his life the circumstances and people that help to confirm the images in his head. If you have taken a position in which other people are to blame for your failures, you gradually begin to resent people, the world, and as a result you get circumstances that further aggravate your resentment. And once you have given control of other people's circumstances, you are not able to change anything. In a word,you begin to fall into the world of misery and create for yourself hell on earth.
Boarding schools believe that they are able to achieve their goals in spite of everything. They find a way to do it despite all the circumstances. No one and nothing can stop them from carrying out their plans. The like attracts the like, so you will be surrounded by the same people as you.
Now look at the position of the winner "I am 100% responsible for my life and I am able to take the necessary actions to improve it." Successful people take responsibility for themselves. They are responsible for their own failures, so they are able to change so that they can not make these mistakes in the future. Mistakes, if perceived correctly, make people stronger, strengthen their character. Responsibility for one's own life leads to controlling it. And controlling helps to improve. But there is a trap here, which is that they see all their failures, and it is important not to see only them and not to change their image for the worse. It is important to understand that “I am human and I have the right to make mistakes. The more mistakes I make, the faster I move towards success.
Take responsibility, but never blame yourself for mistakes. You are human and you have the right to make mistakes. The more you make mistakes, the more successful you become.
Excuses have a response in you
When the loser makes a mistake, he begins to look for excuses. Why? To keep his face in front of others and in front of himself. When the excuse is found, he has no problem starting to use it the next time. For example, "I'm too young, I don't have enough experience" or "I'm too old, I don't understand so fast anymore". And after each repetition of justification, it is absorbed by our subconscious deeper and deeper, and this idea begins to be realized in reality. In the beginning, when a person uses an excuse, he realizes that he is not telling the truth. But as it repeats itself, one actually becomes what one is talking about. All your excuses have a real response to you. With this you gain low self-esteem. The losers do not have the courage to say, "Yes, this is my fault." For others, you can come up with anything,and they will believe, but what matters is what you say to yourself.
Successful people do not use excuses. The less you use them, the faster you move towards success.
Negative effects of excuses on a person:
- one loses the opportunity to change
- a person loses control of his life
- lowers one's self-esteem and worsens one's self-image
- feels malice
- he feels his own helplessness
Loss of opportunity to change
When you start blaming circumstances and everyone for mistakes and failures, except yourself, you make the situation worse. You fall into a trap: you lose the opportunity to change for the better. The idea is firmly rooted in the mind that you are always absolutely right in everything, and the world is so bad, people are like that. What is the point of changing if you are all right. But in fact everything is quite the opposite - everything is fine with the world and with people, and your troubles are 100% created by you. Realize this fact that you are 100% responsible for your life. Not the parents, not the president, not the officials and no one else. This is difficult to understand, but it does not matter to you what the situation is in the country, whether you are in a developed country or vice versa - all the success is only and exclusively in your head. When you accept this fact,the path to success will open immediately, and you will be able to set foot at the beginning of this path.
On the way to success you have to change significantly. A person who has achieved success is not the same as he was 5 years ago. He has become different thanks to taking full responsibility and eliminating mistakes as much as possible. When you blame everyone but yourself and look for different excuses instead of admitting that this is exactly your fault, you are closed to change, which means that the road to success is closed to you.
Loss of control over one's own life
People who think they control their own lives are happier than those who think their lives are controlled by someone else. Lack of control causes irritation and frustration in a person. People who tend to explain the consequences of actions influenced by external factors or other people are called externals. People who are willing to take responsibility for all the consequences of their actions on themselves are called interns.
What do you think you are? If you think you are in control of your life, but other people have an influence on it, you are also referring to the external. They believe that they will be able to carry out their plans only if others are on their side. They are constantly experiencing inner tension because they believe that other people can influence the outcome of their work.
When you think someone is in control of your life, you lose control of your own life and become a puppet in the hands of circumstances and other people. You run on the river of circumstances, instead of choosing your own life. Life is like a catalog, choose what you want to have, work on achieving and get what you want. The law of attraction clearly describes how a person attracts in his life the circumstances and people that help to confirm the images in his head. If you have taken a position in which other people are to blame for your failures, you gradually begin to resent people, the world, and as a result you get circumstances that further aggravate your resentment. And once you have given control of other people's circumstances, you are not able to change anything. In a word,you begin to fall into the world of misery and create for yourself hell on earth.
Boarding schools believe that they are able to achieve their goals in spite of everything. They find a way to do it despite all the circumstances. No one and nothing can stop them from carrying out their plans. The like attracts the like, so you will be surrounded by the same people as you.
Now look at the position of the winner "I am 100% responsible for my life and I am able to take the necessary actions to improve it." Successful people take responsibility for themselves. They are responsible for their own failures, so they are able to change so that they can not make these mistakes in the future. Mistakes, if perceived correctly, make people stronger, strengthen their character. Responsibility for one's own life leads to controlling it. And controlling helps to improve. But there is a trap here, which is that they see all their failures, and it is important not to see only them and not to change their image for the worse. It is important to understand that “I am human and I have the right to make mistakes. The more mistakes I make, the faster I move towards success.
Take responsibility, but never blame yourself for mistakes. You are human and you have the right to make mistakes. The more you make mistakes, the more successful you become.
Excuses have a response in you
When the loser makes a mistake, he begins to look for excuses. Why? To keep his face in front of others and in front of himself. When the excuse is found, he has no problem starting to use it the next time. For example, "I'm too young, I don't have enough experience" or "I'm too old, I don't understand so fast anymore". And after each repetition of justification, it is absorbed by our subconscious deeper and deeper, and this idea begins to be realized in reality. In the beginning, when a person uses an excuse, he realizes that he is not telling the truth. But as it repeats itself, one actually becomes what one is talking about. All your excuses have a real response to you. With this you gain low self-esteem. The losers do not have the courage to say, "Yes, this is my fault." For others, you can come up with anything,and they will believe, but what matters is what you say to yourself.
Successful people do not use excuses. The less you use them, the faster you move towards success.
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