Have you ever thought that the results in a certain area of your life are a complete or partial copy of the results in the same area of your mother, father or other people with whom you spent a lot of time in your childhood?
Maybe, the results of your whole life are a copy of someone's results, and maybe, just some of the results in some areas.
Let me explain with an example so that you understand what I am talking about.
For example, a man is now in debt, his father has also been in debt all his life.
Or mom and dad's relationship was wrong, they were constantly arguing and now their son (daughter) also have a lot of arguments and scandals with a loved one.
Parents have worked in an unloved job all their lives because of the money, and their grown child also does an unloved job for money.
And it is possible that the father was poor and the son (daughter) had a lot of money, but that money is not theirs. The son (daughter) lives a rich life, but actually has no money. Just as the father had no money, so his child has no money, only the situations are different.
Yes, situations can be different, and the conclusion is the same. That's what I am talking about!!!
Do you know why this happens?
The first years of life up to 7 years of age! He looks at the people who live side by side and repeats them. In children, the so-called mirror neurons are very developed.
Thus, the child copies the pattern of thinking and behavior of the parents.
Parents teach the child to think. And they teach him to think the way they think!
And no matter what the parents say, the child watches them and does the same.
If the words correspond to the actions, the trust in the parents grows.
If the words do not match the actions, the trust will fall, and the children will do exactly what the parents do.
And these models will be with the child for life, if he consciously does not change his model of making new decisions!
One can make new decisions on one's own, but this requires special circumstances, or under the influence of other people you trust.
Under the influence of other people, decisions are made very easily, especially if these people have made the same decision once in their lives!
My parents were ordinary. And we had little money.
But I remember how back in school, seeing the rich, I decided: "I will have a lot of money !!!" And that was a strong decision! The decision was so strong that I had to go through many difficulties and obstacles. And to go through all these difficulties helped me the decision I made in my childhood!
But, there is another pattern of behavior regarding money, which I completely copied from my mother and for now I do not consciously change this pattern. My mother was very frugal. She spent money very wisely and only on necessities.
This model is present in me too! And for now, I'm sticking to it because I like it.
Solutions have tremendous power!
And the more emotional this decision is, the more power it has !!!
I am writing this article to pay attention to your results in certain areas of life. Are these your results? Or are these someone's results?
(About how to change patterns of thinking is a completely different and long story)
Do you want to change them? Or do you want to stay with them for life?
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