I have heard millions of times and continue to hear the question: "How to get rid of fear?"
More than that, I used to ask myself the same question.
I overcame my fear many times and dealt with stressful situations even more.
And I understood certain life principles.
Now I have the exact answer to the question "How to get rid of fear?" More than that, I have acquired a certain pattern of behavior that saves me from fear.
You probably expect another answer from me, but life and experience have shown me that this is so. And I'm happy with the way I got to what I found.
How to get rid of fear?
Not at all. It is impossible to get rid of fear! J Sorry for the truth.
Fear will always arise as a reaction of the brain to one or another situation.
Fear only speaks to the fact that you go beyond the comfort zone.
The only thing you can do is gain resilience!
Fear resilience is the ability to think, act and feel despite the feeling of fear.
When one acts many times in spite of fear, the feeling of fear "dulls" and one feels it much less, and then ceases to feel at all.
I did not get rid of the fear.
I just gained resilience.
Let's imagine that you want to learn to ski.
The first time you ski, you fall almost immediately.
The body gets used to it a bit.
The second time you stop and go for a while, and then you fall.
The third time the answer falls, but you drive more.
The hundredth time you come down from the top!
The thousandth way you can easily descend from the steepest peak without blinking an eye.
Take each learning process - everything looks similar: the first time everything is awful and clumsy, the "hundredth" times - everything is fine, the "thousandth" times - everything is wonderful.
And now let's take a situation with fear:
The first time you are scared to death and it seems to you that if you do, life will end. But you do it, life doesn't end and you realize it's not that scary.
The second time you are scared to death and it seems impossible to do. But you do it and everything turns out not so scary.
And every time you do something, you realize that it's not as scary as your brain paints. Even if you are defeated and what the fear has painted comes true, it turns out that it is not as scary as it was in the imagination.
Every time you overcome fear, your resilience increases.
Fear resilience says, "This fear is unreal, it is only an illusion."
When you overcome the "hundred" fears, you will be afraid, but you will act easily.
When you overcome a "thousand" fears, you will not even be afraid anymore.
Our body and mind have an ingenious ability to adapt!
Adaptation is the basis of survival.
If you are crazy, who goes to the stage every day with a speech or jumps with a parachute, your brain gets used to it and will not be afraid.
At the same time, if you are offered to go to Disneyland and ride a horror train, and you have not ridden yet, great fear arises.
Fear arises as a reaction of the brain when leaving the comfort zone. And the more often you step out of your comfort zone, the less afraid you will be to do so.
Of course, if a person's life takes place in the form of "Home-at-work-home" for 10 years, such a person will be very afraid to start a new activity.
You read these lines and understand: «Yes, that's right! This is easy!" However, understanding does not save you from fear. And all because fear is a feeling and understanding is logic. Feelings are always stronger than logic.
Probably, you want to succeed in life, to be happy and to live in abundance.
Then, I am absolutely convinced that you need to train your resilience!
Either you accept the challenges and train alone, or you hide all your life, but then don't complain about life.
How to prepare for the "meeting with fear"?
Decisions always helped me!
If I make decisions, I act! And fear can't stop me.
The solution is a strong emotional state. And if the decision is strong, then it is stronger than the state of fear.
How to train cowardice?
- Take the initiative on yourself.
"Do what you didn't do."
- Be subjected to actions that can lead you to mistakes. The more often you make mistakes, the less you are afraid of mistakes and the less you are afraid. Train the fear of making mistakes.
- Communicate with strangers. Train the fear of being rejected and the fear of criticism.
- Speak in front of people. Train the fears of inconsistency with other people's opinion, the fear of criticism, the fear of mistakes and much more
- Take the leadership of a group of people in your hands
"Go to the unknown." Train the fear of the unknown.
- Create situations in which you will look stupid. Train your fear "what will others think of me"
- Listen to the criticism of others. Train your fear of criticism
- Do things differently than what is expected of you. Train the fear of disagreeing with other people's opinions.
- Pay attention to yourself. Train the fear of "what others will think of me"
"Try to do something different than usual."
- Rely on your intuition. Train the fear of the unknown.
- Do crazy things. Train the fear of not responding to other people's opinions and the fear of criticism.
Understand, please, that you can only succeed in life by being fearful and stress-resistant.
I would recommend you to start training!
You can train at work, at home, on the street, anywhere.
Do you have goals and dreams? Go ahead to achieve them! Do something! And you will train on your own.
This is how I trained fear resistance, on the way to goals and dreams you will have to go through fears and stresses.
Good luck!
More than that, I used to ask myself the same question.
I overcame my fear many times and dealt with stressful situations even more.
And I understood certain life principles.
Now I have the exact answer to the question "How to get rid of fear?" More than that, I have acquired a certain pattern of behavior that saves me from fear.
You probably expect another answer from me, but life and experience have shown me that this is so. And I'm happy with the way I got to what I found.
How to get rid of fear?
Not at all. It is impossible to get rid of fear! J Sorry for the truth.
Fear will always arise as a reaction of the brain to one or another situation.
Fear only speaks to the fact that you go beyond the comfort zone.
The only thing you can do is gain resilience!
Fear resilience is the ability to think, act and feel despite the feeling of fear.
When one acts many times in spite of fear, the feeling of fear "dulls" and one feels it much less, and then ceases to feel at all.
I did not get rid of the fear.
I just gained resilience.
Let's imagine that you want to learn to ski.
The first time you ski, you fall almost immediately.
The body gets used to it a bit.
The second time you stop and go for a while, and then you fall.
The third time the answer falls, but you drive more.
The hundredth time you come down from the top!
The thousandth way you can easily descend from the steepest peak without blinking an eye.
Take each learning process - everything looks similar: the first time everything is awful and clumsy, the "hundredth" times - everything is fine, the "thousandth" times - everything is wonderful.
And now let's take a situation with fear:
The first time you are scared to death and it seems to you that if you do, life will end. But you do it, life doesn't end and you realize it's not that scary.
The second time you are scared to death and it seems impossible to do. But you do it and everything turns out not so scary.
And every time you do something, you realize that it's not as scary as your brain paints. Even if you are defeated and what the fear has painted comes true, it turns out that it is not as scary as it was in the imagination.
Every time you overcome fear, your resilience increases.
Fear resilience says, "This fear is unreal, it is only an illusion."
When you overcome the "hundred" fears, you will be afraid, but you will act easily.
When you overcome a "thousand" fears, you will not even be afraid anymore.
Our body and mind have an ingenious ability to adapt!
Adaptation is the basis of survival.
If you are crazy, who goes to the stage every day with a speech or jumps with a parachute, your brain gets used to it and will not be afraid.
At the same time, if you are offered to go to Disneyland and ride a horror train, and you have not ridden yet, great fear arises.
Fear arises as a reaction of the brain when leaving the comfort zone. And the more often you step out of your comfort zone, the less afraid you will be to do so.
Of course, if a person's life takes place in the form of "Home-at-work-home" for 10 years, such a person will be very afraid to start a new activity.
You read these lines and understand: «Yes, that's right! This is easy!" However, understanding does not save you from fear. And all because fear is a feeling and understanding is logic. Feelings are always stronger than logic.
Probably, you want to succeed in life, to be happy and to live in abundance.
Then, I am absolutely convinced that you need to train your resilience!
Either you accept the challenges and train alone, or you hide all your life, but then don't complain about life.
How to prepare for the "meeting with fear"?
Decisions always helped me!
If I make decisions, I act! And fear can't stop me.
The solution is a strong emotional state. And if the decision is strong, then it is stronger than the state of fear.
How to train cowardice?
- Take the initiative on yourself.
"Do what you didn't do."
- Be subjected to actions that can lead you to mistakes. The more often you make mistakes, the less you are afraid of mistakes and the less you are afraid. Train the fear of making mistakes.
- Communicate with strangers. Train the fear of being rejected and the fear of criticism.
- Speak in front of people. Train the fears of inconsistency with other people's opinion, the fear of criticism, the fear of mistakes and much more
- Take the leadership of a group of people in your hands
"Go to the unknown." Train the fear of the unknown.
- Create situations in which you will look stupid. Train your fear "what will others think of me"
- Listen to the criticism of others. Train your fear of criticism
- Do things differently than what is expected of you. Train the fear of disagreeing with other people's opinions.
- Pay attention to yourself. Train the fear of "what others will think of me"
"Try to do something different than usual."
- Rely on your intuition. Train the fear of the unknown.
- Do crazy things. Train the fear of not responding to other people's opinions and the fear of criticism.
Understand, please, that you can only succeed in life by being fearful and stress-resistant.
I would recommend you to start training!
You can train at work, at home, on the street, anywhere.
Do you have goals and dreams? Go ahead to achieve them! Do something! And you will train on your own.
This is how I trained fear resistance, on the way to goals and dreams you will have to go through fears and stresses.
Good luck!
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