Increase confidence

 

I was not born with absolute self-confidence. To be honest, I had a lot of problems with confidence.

Given that I was not weak enough, the children in the class often laughed at me, made fun of me.

From the very beginning of school, my mother motivated me to want to be an excellent student. And when I got 4s and 5s, I argued a lot with myself, I criticized myself. I could think all day about how and why I got 5s. Where could I go wrong and how did it happen.

It was because of self-criticism that I lost my self-confidence.

In the upper grades of school and university, I didn't do well in relationships with men. This affected me very strongly and negatively.

Therefore, I can say with certainty that my confidence work was no better than yours now, maybe even worse.

How did I manage to succeed? Now I want to share with You my actions that have always helped me succeed.

I had a very strong desire. And that desire was freedom! At school, looking at the children of wealthy parents, I always said to myself, "Here I will grow up, and I will also achieve all this!"

This desire moved me. Although I didn't believe much in myself, in my success, I was looking for ways. To be honest, I didn't think about self-confidence at all, whether I believed in myself or not.

I knew I wanted to be free and I was looking for ways and acting. Yes, it is true, I acted with low self-esteem.

When I started writing The Truth About Success, I didn't think about whether I was worthy to write this book or not, I didn't think about what it would be like and whether I would finish it. I saw that this book was part of my path to freedom. And I wrote this book with the thought of freedom in mind!

The important thing is to act!

The problem with people with low self-esteem is that they do not act. They don't believe and they don't do anything about it. On the contrary, I acted. I did not jump forward into the future. I just did - and whatever happens. Of course, I had a distant vision for my future, but it was not too far away.

On the way to my freedom, I always set goals and broke them down into tasks. I always knew what I had to do this week or in the next few days. That's why I thought about these tasks and did them. Of course, many plans failed and I came to a dead end. Yes, it hurt, I was disappointed, but then I went to the side and started thinking again about how to move forward. I re-invented and moved forward. I can't count how many times I found the wrong paths and how many times I was disappointed, but I was always moving forward.

As a kid, I used to solve a lot of puzzles. And now this animal situation was another conundrum. And I solved it.

As I dealt with situations and reached goals, my confidence grew.

I created self-confidence through action.

And I can say with absolute certainty that self-confidence is based on action.

The second very important point, which I realized much later, is how you perceive your actions and successes. I was always very self-critical, so I underestimated myself and my success. They always seemed very small to me. And I always exaggerated the failures. I often ignored and did not notice my successes at all, as if they were taken for granted. I didn't care. And this is a big mistake.

Of course, now I rejoice in every success, celebrate the successes, thank the successes, even jump on my favorite rock by the sea and rejoice.

I deliberately and consciously fill my brain with success and happiness.

Remember, please, self-confidence is your subjective assessment of yourself.

If you choose one of your greatest victories and focus on it with all your might and "cultivate" it in your head, your confidence will grow much more than in a person who has achieved many goals and has not paid attention to them.

Where there is focus, there is energy. The more energy you put into your successes and victories, the stronger and faster your self-confidence grows. And if day by day you find more and more reasons for disappointment, of course, your confidence will drop.

What else have I always done in life to increase my self-confidence?

From 7th grade I started running in the morning with a friend. That's how I run until now! But I never thought that the habit of running would "save" me. I've noticed that when I run a lot, my brain clears. It's as if then the nonsense goes away.

Today I ran 5 km. My body was tired, but my feelings were shocking. Such a boost of inner energy! Tomorrow I will run 10 km. I am sure that there will be a complete cleaning and an even greater rise.

I had many difficult periods in my life, but every time I ran I had the confidence that I would succeed! And it always happened!

I don't know if you like running or not, but I know for sure that there is some kind of sport that will "save" you and will always give you strength and energy to move forward!

What I can recommend you to do now to increase your confidence:

- Rejoice in your current and past successes! (deliberately rejoice)

"Act!" (It doesn't matter if you do the right thing or not, your confidence will grow)

- Dreams, goals (they will move you).

- Play sports!

You can change your self-confidence on a subconscious level. This is much faster, but requires experience!

How to love mistakes and failures

 

How to draw conclusions correctly?

We often plan something, set goals, want something, but we do not always realize this plan, achieve goals and get where we want.

And the job is not in you at all.

I also plan, I set goals, I want something and I also don't always do it on time. The whole thing is that our brain overestimates the speed of realization of something in the short term and underestimates in the long run.

The problem is not that we do not achieve the goals on time or do not achieve what we want on time. The problem is how we treat this "failure." I put the word "failure" in quotes because it's not a real failure. It's just that our brain considers it a failure.

And millions of people have become disillusioned with themselves and their goals because such "failures" have happened to them in life. One of the most important habits I have acquired in life is the habit of perceiving mistakes and failures correctly.

I used to be frustrated too, upset just like you.

We all often make mistakes in life.

The problem with mistakes is not in the mistakes themselves, but in how we treat them and what we do with them.

If someone scolded you, the problem is not that they did it, the problem is how you perceived it.

All problems occur because of the misperception of events, not because of the events themselves.

And now that I have gained experience of correct perception, I want to share this experience with you so that you can also treat situations correctly.

To better understand what I am talking about, I will show it with my own example.

On Saturday, my coach and I played tennis for a few hours against another coach and his student.

This was our 4th fight!

And we lost again ...

Yes, I made a lot of mistakes.

But the amazing thing is what I said to myself after the defeat.

I was very happy with how I perceived it.

I really wanted to win and I did my best for it, but it didn't happen.

Here are some phrases I said to myself mentally after the loss:

- Good for you! A little more and we would win! Now we lost 7-6, and the previous times it was 6-2 and 5-1 .... You have improved a lot!

- Yes. You played very poorly next to the net. He missed almost all the balls. If he played better next to the net, we would have won.

- You have to train the game to the net and pass together with the coach! And you will win!

- In general, everything was wonderful! Good for you! Proud of you!

Now let's analyze these thoughts:

Thought 1. Recognition of achievements and great progress, praise

Thought 2. Understanding the reasons for failure

Thought 3. Understanding what to do to eliminate the cause

Thought 4. Conclusion

Note, please, that the first and last thought are positive and creative! They increase my love for myself and my confidence.

The second thought is the reason. Cause, fact, clear and logical in the complete absence of criticism and negative emotions about yourself or situations.

Third thought - this is a clear and logical plan for the near future to eliminate the causes that led to the "failure".

Fourth thought - emotional conclusion.

Thoughts of praise are emotional!

The thoughts of analysis are logical!

It is the emotional thoughts that have tremendous power!

In my case, the emotional thoughts are positive.

Logical thoughts have a slightly negative connotation (but they are logical, so they have little destructive power).

In humans, the opposite happens: thoughts of analysis are emotional, which creates strong destruction, and thoughts of praise are either tossed or logical, and therefore have little power.

Here is a common situation: a person is very upset, scolds himself, but somewhere deep down he realizes that he did everything well, even though it did not work out.

Why can you be happy and rejoice when something is wrong or when you have made a mistake?

- the universe knows and understands better. It leads you to your goal in the best way.

- you have become wiser. You have gained experience and understanding

- you grew up as a person

- You understand that it is worth improving positive thinking.

Summary: make sure that the positive emotions as a result of each situation (positive or negative) significantly exceed the negative emotions!

Ideally, positive emotions should be 80% or more, and negative 20% or less.

How to reach balance

 

You create your life through your thoughts and feelings. You've probably heard this a million times. But so far you have failed to create the future you dream of. And I failed. Because there are several traps here that no one warns about. And I got caught.
I used to read a lot of books on personal growth. And in all of them they talked about the fact that you have to dream and imagine your future. Here I started doing it too!
I started dreaming a lot. And the more and more often I went into the future, the worse the present became. Boredom came instead of motivation. The money that had to come did not come. Many unpleasant miracles happened.
I wondered why this was happening, I was creating the future ... I do everything as it is said in the books.
I decided to find out why this was happening.
And a few days later the answer came to me: "All your energy goes to the future!" And I realized that my energy does not remain in the present. I understood why I was bored, I understood why laziness came.
I totally focused on the present! I lived only in the present and the present. I went to the other extreme - today. I stopped dreaming and started working hard on my current goals. I want to point out that this extreme turned out to be much better. But after a while (about half a year, that's not 1 month, as in the case of focusing on the future), I felt that something was wrong. Boredom came again. And I felt I had lost my meaning. For me, boredom is a wonderful indicator that something is wrong, I am doing something wrong.
And I started thinking, what's wrong again.
The results in life are excellent. Why I feel what I feel. And a few days later I received the answer: «You forgot why you do what you do. You lost your sight.
This was another lesson.
And then I decided that part of the day I have to focus on today to create and improve the present, and part of the day I have to dream and build the future to remember why I do what I do in the present.
The conclusions I made during this period helped me to find a balance in life and thanks to that I reached full abundance!
In the morning (6:00 - 9:00) - this is the most wonderful and appropriate time to tune in to a wonderful day.
Yes, you create every day! It is you who create.
In the morning, I do spells, concentrations, visualizations, and other suggestion techniques that are related to daily goals.
If you are positive in the morning, your whole day will be wonderful. You will succeed. Everything will go great if, of course, something does not change your mood.
That's why in the morning my whole focus is on today!
I have daily goals. It is on them that I focus.
Our lives consist of decades.
The decade consists of 10 years.
The year consists of 12 months.
The month consists of 30 days.
I consider the day to be the most important! Every day is like a new life.
I appreciate every day.
And that's why in the morning I create in my imagination every day.
Day time (9: 00-18: 00) - this is the time to achieve short-term goals!
I know what I want in 1,3,6 months. I think about these goals and I do what I have to do to achieve these goals.
The day is a time for intensive work!
During the day, a very strong creative energy prevails.
Evening (18: 00-22: 00) - this is a time for thanksgiving and dreams.
In the evening it is worth thanking for the past day and celebrating all the successes of the day.
It is also very nice to dream in the evening. In the evening you can build your future.
In the evening meditations, I imagine my future in 1,3,5 years.
This is wonderful to do in the evening, because in your sleep your brain will continue to build your new future.
And in the morning you will wake up full of happiness and joy for the new life and you will focus again on the most effective way to spend the day.
Remember, you have the right time for everything!
And that's how I came to a perfect balance in life.
Thanks to the new order, I manage to improve my current life and create my future life for a whole day.

How to get rid of boredom

 

The opposite of boredom is motivation! To get rid of boredom you need to create motivation.
In this article, I want to talk to you about motivation, because it is precisely this motivation that is of paramount importance for achieving all kinds of plans, goals and dreams. And the ability to motivate yourself is a basic habit.
Motivation is desire!
And the stronger the desire, the stronger it will move you!
Motivation is like inner fire. If the fire is strong, and a person manages to maintain this fire for a long time - everything will succeed! People with strong motivation always succeed.
But you have to be able to create that motivation. Sometimes the desire to have something or to achieve something comes naturally, and sometimes you will have to look for it. You have to work on motivation! Motivation is like inspiration, it is a feeling that you can and should create!
At one time, when I started, my motivation was freedom!
And she was so strong that I stood up and moved forward after all the mistakes I had already made on my way. I worked all year without any visible results! It was a whole year of searching and mistakes. But every time I stood up!
My inner fire was so strong!
But motivation, like any other feeling, has a tendency to change.
It can either go out or intensify.
Motivation is extinguished in this case if the level of faith decreases or a person does not act enough. That's when he began to think about how to get rid of boredom.
And the motivation completely disappears at the moment of realization of the desire and achievement of the goals!
After 1.5 years I reached freedom, and I realized my dream! My inner fire and motivation disappeared because I got what I wanted.
How do I determine when to look for and create motivation?
Boredom is coming! You probably have this condition!
Boredom is a wonderful indicator that change is needed.
Now I want to talk to you about how to seek and restore motivation.
I will share with you exactly what works for me.
We often forget about our desires and dreams. That is why we need to remember them often. For the purposes, dreams, desires you have to work! They rarely manifest themselves. And if they do appear, they must be maintained, otherwise they will go out.
From a certain moment I decided to work on them: either I imagine the future life, or I just write my dreams and wishes on paper. This helps me bring back the energy of dreams and desires in my life, and the inner fire increases.
Very often we are so immersed in work that we forget about our desires.
"What I want?" - a very strong question for gaining motivation.
Personally, this question has saved me "a million" times. 15 minutes is enough to think about the answer to this question, and immediately there is motivation and desire to do something.
The question "For what?" - is deeper and helps you realize the essence. It makes sense to ask yourself, "What do I want this for, what I want?" And then you will go further and deeper you will be able to realize your deep motivation.
Some jokers for you in search of motivation.
Maybe this will help you create motivation. Or maybe these ideas will push you to your own ideas.
I am always motivated by climbing to a new level. I want to have what I don't have now! I am usually motivated by big things that will drastically change my life. Big changes bring great motivation. Small changes are a small motivation.
I am motivated by the new goals! I adore goals.
And the main task of my goals - is to give me motivation. Will I achieve them or not - that's another question. I want to be motivated now.
For men, the goals are closer.
For women - dreams.
Motivation for men
The man will always strive for money, because money creates a sense of security, freedom, security. If a man does not seek money and does not want it, I can say for sure that there is something wrong with his masculine energy.
The man is motivated by leadership and competition. To be better than someone, to be first, to be stronger, etc.
The man strives for power and influence, just for everyone the understanding of power is different. Someone seeks to rule the state, someone in business, someone in the family, someone wants to influence other people.
A wonderful motivation for a man is the family and, especially, the woman. A man can do a lot for his wife! For the sake of the beloved woman, the man can do more than for himself.
Motivation for women
Family motivation. Family for a woman is a top priority.
Children. The maternal instinct is very strong, and women will do anything and more for the sake of the children. Because of the children, they are able to exceed their capabilities.
Beloved man. The feeling of love is very developed in women!
House, apartment, material values. The woman strives to create comfort and coziness for her family. She wants her children to be protected and safe. Not only physical safety, but also in material terms.
Self-related motivation. Travel. All women love to travel and see beautiful places.
Men mainly travel:
- with his wives, because she wants so much
- to increase their confidence and then say that they have been there and there.
Perhaps this passion for travel is associated with increased interest in everything new, as well as the desire for beauty. Women are beautiful and they strive for beauty.
Creativity, hobbies and the opportunity to do something just for fun.
What I wrote above is a general motivation. But remember that you are unique! And you have to find your motivation. Forward to search! How to get rid of boredom? - such a question does not arise in those who have found their unique motivation.